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The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change
What we focus on grows.
This principle touches every part of our lives—our relationships, self-love, and endless inner dialogue.
Back in 1968, two psychologists conducted an experiment.
They told teachers that randomly selected students were destined for academic brilliance based on a fictitious "Harvard Test."
Believing in these students' potential, the teachers unknowingly shifted their focus.
They gave these kids more attention, more encouragement, more opportunities.
By the end of the year, those students significantly outperformed all of their classmates.
The teachers' expectations changed everything.
Yet too often, we do the opposite—we magnify what's missing.
A parent might overlook the many good things their child does and fixate on the mistakes.
A spouse might dwell on a partner's faults, ignoring countless acts of love.
A person might dismiss their achievements, consumed by thoughts of not being "enough."
This kind of focus stifles motivation and hurts relationships—including the one we have with ourselves.
However, as that study showed, when we appreciate the good in others, they respond with more goodness.
When we embrace our progress, we free ourselves from the paralysis of perfectionism and fear of failure.
Gratitude shifts us from criticism to compassion, from self-doubt to self-acceptance.
Just as the teachers' positive focus led to their students' growth, the more we recognize the good, the more it grows—in others and in ourselves.
What we focus on truly matters.
Reflection:
What are three positive things I can acknowledge about myself today?
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🕯️ Inspiration:
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Ya Allah, Most Merciful and Compassionate, bless Unnus with good health, well-being, and strength in mind, body, and soul. Protect him and his family, and fill their lives with love, peace, and happiness.
Oh Allah, grant him abundant halal rizq and endless barakah in his provisions. Guide him on the path of growth and success, both spiritually and in this world. Let his heart always be content and his efforts fruitful.
.Ameen.🤲🏽
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Day 423
🏥 WHO delivered 400 food parcels, fuel, medical supplies & blood units + specialized medical team to Kamal Adwan Hospital (besieged north Gaza) on Sunday
🇵🇸 30+ Palestinians killed in Gaza yesterday
🇵🇸 14 y/o Ayham al-Salaymeh youngest ever Palestinian imprisoned by Israel, abducted by IOF at age 12, accused of throwing stones at settlers; subjected to violent & humiliating interrogation; held in house arrest for 1.5 years
‼️ IOF issued more forced displacement orders for parts of Khan Younis escalating fears of renewed ground invasion
🇵🇸 Constant attacks on Gaza City (north) as IOF directly targeted busy market causing fire & killing 2+ people (👆). 2 more attacks on gatherings in Sabra & al-Jalaa street killed 4+ people
🇵🇸 Ongoing 59-day north Gaza siege: Gaza Health Ministry report 3,700 people killed or missing since siege began. IOF targeted school-shelter in Jabalia, killed a girl, injured 8; also blew up home in Beit Lahia causing huge fire, paramedics unable to rescue or report casualties
🕌 Israeli security minister banned all mosques from broadcasting call to prayer in ‘48 heartland
🇱🇧 Multiple IOF attacks killed total 11 people in south Lebanon on Monday + air raids on south & east Lebanon. 2 attacks killing 9 came after Hezbollah’s “defensive” warning shots at Israeli military site in response to Israel’s 52+ ceasefire violations
🏠 Jerusalem: Israel forced 2 Palestinians to demolish their homes; 36 home demolitions & bulldozing operations in Nov
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