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In a world of endless scrolling, constant updates, and unsolicited opinions, it’s easy to lose sight of what truly matters.

Social media, gossip, and idle curiosity draw us into the lives of others, often at the expense of our growth and well-being.

The Cost of Curiosity

Curiosity about others might seem harmless, even natural, but unchecked, it becomes a preoccupation that drains energy and purpose.

Consider the story of a student who asked Imam Malik about his age.

The Imam replied sharply, “Mind your own business.” 

Harsh as it seemed, the response was meant to teach a lesson: focus on what truly matters—your own responsibilities and growth.

When we obsess over others—envying their success, judging their shortcomings—we divert energy away from our own goals.

And where attention goes, energy flows.

How much of our potential is wasted scrolling through feeds, dissecting others’ lives, or engaging in gossip that serves no purpose?

The Trap of Oversharing

This issue is magnified in today’s digital age, where people broadcast their lives and comment on everything and everyone.

Scholars of the past were vigilant with their words and even thoughts, guarding against idle chatter and focusing on their areas of expertise.

Now, many judge others’ religiosity, debate worthiness, and proclaim who is “halal” or “haram,” often from behind a screen.

This is not vigilance; it’s a distraction.

Focus on Your Own Book

Allah reminds us in the Qur’an:
‘O believers! Be mindful of Allah and let every soul look to what ˹deeds˺ it has sent forth for tomorrow.’

Instead of flipping through the metaphorical books of others, Allah reminds us to focus on our records.

Are our actions today building a legacy of righteousness?

When we judge others, we risk becoming blind to our flaws.

Gossip, judgment, and meddling are spiritually harmful and intellectually lazy.

They distract us from the challenging, transformative work of self-accountability.

Liberation Through Mindfulness

Minding your own business is liberating.

It frees you from unnecessary burdens and redirects your energy to your relationship with Allah, your growth, and your contributions.

Consider the story of a salaf (pious predecessor) who passed by a beautiful house and remarked, “Mashallah, whose house is this?” 

When told, he began to weep in regret.

Why?

Because even this innocent question—born of idle curiosity—was a distraction from his purpose.

Their vigilance may seem extreme, but it reflects an important principle: our attention is precious.

Wasting it on what doesn’t serve us only derails our journey.